September 15, 2019,
Since our personal flood a few weeks ago where a pipe in the basement got a pinhole leak that managed to swamp much of the southeast corner, needing new dry wall and paint as well as new bamboo flooring, I’ve felt restless. “Something is not right” has lurked behind my hours at home. The repair company promises it will be done by Tuesday. We didn’t put a hole in that pipe yet we have to pay $1,000 deductible on our insurance. Thank goodness the insurance will pay for the balance.
It was one of those unpredictable accidents that could not have been foreseen and prevented. But I wonder, if one pipe got a hole in it, will others? Our home is 25 years old. We bought it before it was built and have loved it and tried to take good care of it. But a pinhole leak caused not just expense, but put a little worry into daily life. Could it happen again?
Yet what good would it do to worry? I heard a speaker say that the past no longer exists, so we don’t have to stress about it. The future hasn’t happened yet, so it too doesn’t deserve anxiety. The present only is what we need to deal with. But that’s wrong because in the past, we thought about the future and saved up money for a catastrophe so we wouldn’t have to stress in the present.
Yes, we deal with the present, but taking out insurance twenty-five years ago so that we could get help when problems occurred—a small fire, a small bathroom leak, wind damage—we had means to cope. We worried enough about the future to pay insurance that even helped us when we lived in Tukwila, Washington for 18 months and were burglarized.
So, yes, we do deal with the future in the present so that we can prepare for what may come to pass. Car insurance, paying bills promptly and fully, taking vitamins, having yearly medical checkups and twice-yearly dental exams. All of these things we do today to prevent problems in the future.
It’s the worry about something we can’t prevent or foresee that steals our peace. What if those apparently second-rate pipes leak again? Do I go around the house every day checking for a wet spot? Maybe I could do that. But I won’t. Life is just too short for worry. “Sufficient to the day is the evil thereof.” Why be miserable about maybes? After all, though we are careful drivers, we could be smashed by a drunk driver. Worry could destroy all pleasure.
I’m glad that as a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, I believe that God said we wouldn’t get trials worse than we could cope with. Furthermore, God said he’d help us with the trials we get even though he won’t deprive us of the learning that problems create. I have never asked for an illness, accident or sorrow to come, but I try to learn from them when they do.
I have no idea what the lesson is from our latest water damage problem. So far, I haven’t recognized a need for that experience, so we chalk it up to “that’s life” and go on. There will always be “that’s life” moments and experiences that prove that we can’t make ourselves safe against disturbing events or avoid hard things. All we can do, with God’s help, is cope. PMA
I couldn’t think of a picture to go with my essay today, so I’m just posting Brielle and Liliana Barnett in Texas, Lili’s first day of kindergarten.